Loving Kindness: Frederickson helps us increase the loving resonance in our lives through certain “micro-moment” practices.
a. Reflect at the end of the day about three social connections you made that day and their potential for positivity. Increased social connection strengthens vagal tone and health. “Exchanging our hearts” and not just facts and information creates the opportunity for increasing our own well-being. As you reflect on these three social interactions, ask yourself how “in tune” you were with these people.
b. Loving Kindness Meditation (LKM) is another powerful, love-enhancing tool in our lives. An ancient Buddhist practice, LKM breaks down the self-absorption doors and opens us up to a wide community of positive resonance and love. While the practice holds for 20 minutes of meditation a day, any amount of time is a great start. Here’s a simple LKM meditative practice: May John (or whatever person you are thinking of) feel safe; May John feel happy; May John feel healthy; May John live with ease.
c. Don’t Fake It: Insincere love is more toxic and damaging to the person initiating it.