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Thursday, October 1, 2015

Search Inside Yourself: Post #5--Positivity

More on Positivity
a.    Self-Motivation. The author introduces three kinds of motivators—Pleasure (chasing ego
b.    Resilience happens when you align work with values and purpose, and you envision the desired future state.  Resilience can be trained on three levels: 1) Inner calm from meditation; 2) Emotional resilience from treating emotions as experiences, not that identify us; 3) Cognitive resilience—optimism vs. pessimism and how we explain failure to ourselves: Are we doomed victims of our failure (pessimism), or is it just an experience that can be overcome with personal power (optimism)?
c.    Empathy. “First seek to understand, then to be understood“ (Covey). Mirror neurons are the basis for empathy—feeling what others are feeling. We tend to empathize with people whom we understand and like. Empathy can be both practiced and learned.
satisfiers); Passion (finding flow—where performance and challenge intersect); Purpose (being part of something bigger than yourself).

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Search Inside Yourself: : Post #4--Mental Habits

Creating Useful Mental Habits
a.    Triggers. Simple comments by our boss or spouse can trigger an emotional response from the amygdala that sends a message to the upper, cognitive brain for help in adapting to a stressor. Sometimes the response is appropriate and proportionate, other times, not so much. The trick is to take enough time before responding to process it more cognitively and less emotionally.
b.    Coping practice. Try using the pneumonic Siberian North Railroad (SBNRR): Stop (find the “sacred pause”). Breathe (reinforce the pause). Notice (recognize and name the physical bodily reaction). Reflect (figure out where the emotion is coming from). Respond (in a way that ends positively).

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

Search Inside Yourself: Post #3--Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence. The fathers of emotional intelligence (EI), John Mayer and Peter Salovey, define it this way: “The ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions…” Further, Daniel Goleman later popularized emotional intelligence by adding a useful structure to EI: Self Awareness, Self–Regulation, Motivation, Empathy, and Social Skills. 

a.    Self-Awareness. Goleman identified three elements of self-awareness: 1) Emotional awareness—understanding the effects of emotions on yourself. 2) Self-assessment—understanding your strengths and challenges. 3) Self-confidence—understanding your self-worth.

b.    Self-Mastery. Goleman identified five elements: 1) Self-control—keeping emotions in control; 2) Trustworthiness—being honest and having integrity; 3) Conscientiousness—being responsible for our actions; 4) Adaptability—handling change well; and, 5) Innovation—initiating change.

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