Exercises: This book is loaded with about a hundred exercises that can help you move toward your own Intentional Change. For example:
a. Who Helped Me: List people who helped you along the way. Also make another list of people who tried to “manage,” even “fix” you along the way. What was your emotional reaction to both camps? How would you contrast them?
b. The Best Leaders in My Life: Make a list of the people (leaders) in your life who brought out the best in you. Next to their names, write out the qualities, characteristics, and attitudes that they demonstrated.
c. The Sacrifice Syndrome: Based on Boyatzis and McKee’s previous book (Resonant Leadership), the authors outline a diagnostic checklist (p. 58) to help you determine if you’re going down a dead-end, “dissonant” path.
d. Others: I particularly like the exercises around the Ideal Self. My Noble Purpose, My Life in 10 Years, My Dreams, My Calling, My Passion, What People Will Say About Me at my Funeral.
e. Peer Feedback and Individual Commitments: Getting feedback. On a flip chart, team members paste up 4 sticky notes—two strengths and two challenges. This is done for each person on the team. Each person makes a commitment to change based on the feedback. Also, each person can both reflect back to the group what s/he sees and can ask for clarification.
f. Am I a Resonant Leader? This inventory ends the book on the main criteria for resonant leadership: Am I inspirational? Do I create a positive tone—based on a sense of hope? Am I in touch with the hearts and minds of my team? Do I regularly show compassion? Am I in tune (mindful) with myself and others?