Daring Greatly: Post #2--Scarcity

Scarcity: Looking inside a culture of ‘not enough.’ “You can’t swing a cat without hitting a narcissist!” We see a dramatic rise in egomania and narcissism in our country, and our response is to cut it down. But egoism comes from shame, so shaming it doesn’t help and only fuels it. Narcissism is most often a shame-based, scarcity fear— I’m not {smart, attractive, lovable, worthy…} enough. Kids grow up thinking that if they’re not great or extraordinary, they will be “less than” and unworthy of belonging. Such thinking causes shame, comparison, and disengagement—a dangerous trifecta.